Something wondrous happens when we start to be curious and accept the unknown as a mystery and potential. When we allow ourselves to share honestly. To be vulnerable. So that we can learn, and stay open. So we cultivate a space for that safe harbor within.
The ability to appreciate and trust oneself, independent of perceived failure or success, creates a fulfilling self-belief. As EE Cummings describes: “We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch. Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”
In my professional practice, and as well in my own personal life, it happens often that it is someone else who points out something beautiful within me, something I might not have seen or acknowledged or appreciated before. The power of sharing openly in a group or community reveals these moments. In these moments, we become aware of our unknown selves. The conversation touches childhood wounds or forgotten wishes we all carry within. The words of another open us to love ourselves a little deeper, to help heal that wound. Seeing what was hidden, putting our finger on it, allows things to resolve just by allowing us to see it, and for us to be seen by another. Often a new voice, unexpected, comes to awaken us to ourselves.
The new awakening voice is one worth listening to. Creating a new space for creativity from self-belief. Turning our deepest fears into excitement. And it can come from anywhere, unexpectedly, at any time and any place. It comes in conversation. Or it starts a conversation.
Self-belief comes not only from our confidence of reaching a goal, of being in control. It does not derive only from achievement. It is rather an inner knowing, with all that you have, that even if you don’t know now, you will find out. It is an inner awareness of your beauty and your shadow, your strengths and your weaknesses. Even in the face of extreme uncertainty, it’s your 100% confidence that YOU will never give up on yourself. It is a belief in your own recreation: maybe you cannot create the desired outcome every time. But you can control how you feel about something, and the meaning you give something. Thereby you create and control your own happiness and your own self-fulfillment.
If we believe in ourselves in this deeper and more authentic way, we can also believe in others as well. In conversation with others, we embrace diversity, embrace wholeness. What becomes possible when accepting more authentic differences to be present in your world? No matter your religion, politics, or social status, accepting new voices into our lives, and our inner dialogue, indeed multilogue, confers creative power to lead. It is curiosity and wonder about the unknown, the yet to be discovered, which helps lead us into our future. Not alone but with others alongside. Daring to be more visible allows us to be more authentic, more whole, and more transparent.
Our Chief Philosophy Officer, Christoph Quarch, shares about the evolution of leadership: “When we live from our depths, we are completely with ourselves and stand in our power and blossom to vitality. We then no longer identify with concepts or images adopted from others, but are fulfilled in our depths. We are at peace with ourselves and experience our actions, our work and even our whole life meaningfully. We are free of egocentricity but instead draw from healthy self-confidence. We are alive – and enthusiastic. A new dimension of being human.”